Making Time for Making Love

By Marla Taviano

I’m a list-maker, a go-getter, a type A, a Martha, a busybody. Call me what you will. So much to do, so little time.Sure, sex is on my to-do list. Somewhere, I think. It’s just not close enough to the top to make it into my day most of the time.

If we’re honest with ourselves, we’ll admit we can always make time for the things we really want to do. It’s all about choices. What do I choose to do with the 24 hours I’m given each day?

Picture this: On my desk I have two piles. One is a stack of bills to pay and papers to file. The other “pile” has just one item in it—the latest Christian chick-lit novel by my favorite author.I have one hour available. If I pick up the book and say, “I just don’t have time to pay the bills today,” am I being truthful?

And when I say, “I’d love to have sex more often, but I’m just too busy,” am I being truthful? Making time for sex doesn’t depend so much on my schedule and circumstances as it does on my attitude.

Now, of course you don’t have the time (especially if you have kids), and you probably won’t find the time to do it either. You have to make time for sex.

What things are robbing you of time that could be spent with your husband? Television? Novels and magazines? Your cell phone? The computer? Your writing career? (Ahem.) When these choices interfere with intimacy with our spouse, we’re being selfish and foolish, plain and simple.

I have come to realize something amazing. So amazing, in fact, that there’s not a chance you’ll believe me until you try it. Sex takes time, yes, but when I’m having it regularly, I actually get more done. Life runs more smoothly. I have a calming sense of peace and happiness. Honestly and truly—I am not making this up.

That’s not an accident. It’s the way God works. It’s like the object lesson with the Mason jar, the golf balls and the gravel. If I put the gravel in first, the golf balls won’t fit. But if I put the golf balls in the jar first, then the gravel fits nicely all around it. Same with sex. When I make time to make love like God commands me to do, He’ll take care of all the other stuff. He really will. I just have to trust Him enough to put everything aside and have intimate time with my spouse.

The bottom line is, we can always make time for the things (and people) that are most important to us. Make it your goal to show your husband you love him by giving him nice-sized chunks of your valuable time.

Part Two Next Time!

Taken from Is That All He Thinks About?: How to Enjoy Great Sex with Your Husband by Marla Taviano. Published by Harvest House Copyright © 2007 Marla Taviano. All rights reserved. Used by permission

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