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Win A Free Book! AND Update on Movie

Win A Free Book! AND Update on Movie

It’s that time again! Time to sign my guestbook and get your name put into the hat for a free book.
Would you like two chances instead of one? Go to the following sites and leave a comment on each one, as well as this one (3 total) and your name will be entered twice.
Check out my YouTube book trailer and leave a comment at:
Leave a comment on my guest book at my web site, too… if you haven’t read the opening scene yet, you can read it there. I hope you win!!!
Summer Is The Marriage Season–Excellent Books

Summer Is The Marriage Season–Excellent Books

Every Summer we see an upsurge in weddings, which only makes sense. The weather is more condusive to a great honeymoon and many people have vacation time coming. Much time goes into the planning of the wedding…and hopefully as much or more time is spent planning for a successful, Christ centered marriage.
Here are a few books that might help, if you or a loved one are planning that special even this year! I think most of these are clickable links that will take you Amazon where you can order them either new or used, and in most cases, see a description of the book. Many of these books would be excellent for us ‘old’ married people, too, so enjoy!


The Christ Centered Marriage: Discovering and Enjoying Your Freedom in Christ Together by Neil T. Anderson


Divorce Proof Your Marriage by Gary Rosberg


Covenant Marriage: Building Communication & Intimacy by Gary D. Chapman



The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective by Martha Peace



The Excellent Wife Study Guide by Martha Peace



The Exemplary Husband: A Biblical Perspective by Stuart Scott



The Exemplary Husband: A Biblical Perspective (Study Guide) by Stuart Scott



The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman



Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last by John Gottman



His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley Jr.



A Couple’s Guide to Communication by John Mordechai Gottman



Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love by Willard F.Jr. Harley


Fall in Love, Stay in Love by Willard F. Harley Jr.



The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman



Romancing Your Husband: Enjoying a Passionate Life Together by Debra White Smith



101 Ways to Romance Your Marriage: Enjoying a Passionate Life Together by Debra White Smith



Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage, Third Edition by Ed Wheat



Toward A Growing Marriage: Building the Love Relationship of your Dreams by Gary Chapman


Five Steps to Romantic Love: A Workbook for Readers of Love Busters and His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F.Jr. Harley



Becoming One Workbook: Emotionally, Physically, Spiritually by Joe Beam



Becoming One by Joe Beam



Sacred Marriage by Gary L. Thomas



Sacred Sex: A Spiritual Celebration of Oneness in Marriage by Tim Alan Gardner



The 5 Love Needs of Men And Women by Gary Rosberg



A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God’s Gift of Sexual Intimacy by Douglas E. Rosenau



Divorce Proof Your Marriage by Gary Rosberg



Time for a Better Marriage: Training in Marriage Enrichment (Rebuilding Books) by Jon Carlson


Marital Myths Revisited: A Fresh Look at Two Dozen Mistaken Beliefs About Marriage (Rebuilding Books) by Arnold A. Lazarus



It Takes Two to Tango: More Than 250 Secrets to Communication, Romance and Intimacy in Marriage by Gary Smalley
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For Better or for Best by Gary Smalley
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Hidden Keys of a Loving, Lasting Marriage by Gary Smalley
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The Christ Centered Marriage: Discovering and Enjoying Your Freedom in Christ Together by Neil T. Anderson
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Covenant Marriage: Building Communication & Intimacy by Gary D. Chapman
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The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective by Martha Peace
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The Excellent Wife Study Guide by Martha Peace
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The Exemplary Husband: A Biblical Perspective by Stuart Scott
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New Video Trailer!!!

New Video Trailer!!!

New Video Trailer for my book on YouTube—

I have a new video trailer up and running on YouTube for my book. It’s only one minute long and I need to do a tiny bit of tweaking yet, but it’s up and running. I’m hoping you’ll stop by to view it and maybe leave a comment or rank it, to help it along? If you have the time, maybe even send it to a few people in your address book, to help it on it’s way. Marketing is the key to sales and the second book will only be published if the first one does well, so all help is SOOOO appreciated!!!

Here’s the link—–http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlRKMEDD3Oc

Miralee’s Book Goes To The Movies??? Maybe!

Miralee’s Book Goes To The Movies??? Maybe!

Let’s just say I’m a little bit excited and maybe you can imagine what that means, after you read on…..
My agent got a call from the major motion picture studio (which has to remain unnamed for now, but trust me, you’d know it if you heard it…) that had expressed an interest in reading my manuscript a couple of months ago.
The rep read it and really liked it…in fact, she stated that it was an inspiring read, she loved the characters and the plot….BUT (and we expected this) it has too strong of faith elements for their company. It needs to be a family movie, as it would be produced by the family division of this company, but not explicitly Christian, as it is now.
My agent and I discussed it and told her we understood where she’s coming from. The book was written for a Christian audience and publishing house, not a secular studio. We’re in agreement that the book can be changed to reflect strong family values, and the faith element softened. My publisher is open to the idea, as long as all the faith elements aren’t removed and we’re able to see the transition that the main character makes in her personal life. I agree with him.
The studio rep said she’s willing to take a look at it again, as she really liked the story, IF I’d be willing to do a complete summary of the entire book, showing what changes I’m willing to make and how the story line would run if the faith elements were softened or downplayed. I spent a number of hours getting that worked up for her, and now we’re waiting for the okay from my publisher, before sending it along to the studio rep.
Any and all prayers would be appreciated! I feel this could be a wonderful ministry opportunity to the unchurched. So many Christian movies, while excellent, don’t reach people who aren’t Christians. Many unsaved people will watch a family movie, and a few of them may go buy the book after seeing it’s based on a book….THEN get hit with the full faith message.
Please pray that God will give the book revisions (the book will stay just the same, only the movie script of the book would change) FAVOR in my publishers eyes and in the studio rep’s eyes, IF He wants it to be a movie. It’s for His glory, not mine. This is NOT something I ever looked for or expected, so it’s not going to be a disappointment if it doesn’t work out…but I do feel it has tremendous potential for the Kingdom, if it does!
Honor: The Fuel That Runs a Healthy Marriage

Honor: The Fuel That Runs a Healthy Marriage


Honor: The Fuel that Runs a Healthy Marriage

Dr. Gary Smalley
The Smalley Relationship Center

Captain Johnny Ferrier, a pilot for the famed Blue Angles, shreds across the blue sky. Onlookers at the national air show notice smoke billowing from the back of his Navy jet. On the radio, his superior pleads for Johnny to save his life. “Bail out, Johnny, Bail out! You’ve still got time!” His superior shouts through the receiver. But Johnny doesn’t make his move. He knows that if he bails, thousands of innocent bystanders will lose their lives in the crash.

“Bail out!” his superior tries again. Nothing. The stress of the G-force only allows Johnny to answer his superior by blowing three puffs of smoke, just to let him know that he was alright — that he was under control. The crowd watches in amazement as Johnny courageously steers his plane to the only place not occupied by people. A small meadow is where Johnny makes his final statement to the world.Captain Johnny Ferrier’s statement was one of ultimate honor for the people down below him.

His courage to take his own life, for the lives of others, might be hard for people to understand, especially in light of Johnny’s beautiful young wife and children he left behind. However, the card his wife found tucked away in his wallet the day of his death explains why he gave his own life. It simply read, “God first, others second, and myself third.”

This is the “I’m Third” principle Johnny learned as a child. It means that you put others before yourself. This is the model we must follow for our marriages.We must learn to place high value upon our mates. We call this concept Honor. Johnny honored the people below; he placed immeasurable value on their lives when he crashed into the vacant meadow. We might never have to literally die for our mate, but we must practice the example Johnny left us on a daily level.

What does honor look like in the daily life of a couple? For starters, it means waking up in the morning and deciding that our mate is the most valuable person on earth to us. It is deciding that we will look after our mate’s needs before we worry about ours.

Honoring our mate on a daily basis is all about priority.Imagine you are meeting the president of the United States. What might be going through your mind? How might you be acting? You would probably be smiling, and maybe slightly shaking, from the excitement the President encompasses. Your mouth might even be open in awe of meeting such an important person. This is what we need to have for our mate. That feeling we are in the presence of greatness. When was the last time we looked at our mate, mouths open in awe of his or her presence?So how do we honor our mate? The following are the four faces of honor:

• Gives Meaningful Touch

• Pictures a Special Future Together

• Has an Active Commitment

• Expresses High Value

These four elements are what make honor possible for a couple. They are the driving force to healthier, more exciting marriages. In fact, Dr. Scott Stanley, a well known marital researcher, said that honor is what drives a couple to take the necessary steps toward marital satisfaction. If we do not have honor, then we can not have a satisfying marriage.

A “Miracle” Across the Street

A “Miracle” Across the Street


A “Miracle” Across the Street by Dave Boehi



Perhaps you’ve heard people use the phrase, “It’s a God thing.” They’re talking about experiences where they’ve seen God move in the hearts of His people … or answer specific prayers … or bring unbelievers to the point where they understand their need for salvation. I love hearing stories like that, and here’s one I found recently from Kent Hughes, now the senior pastor emeritus at College Church in Wheaton, Ill. To me it’s not only an example of a “God thing,” but it also offers a few lessons about marriage.


When Kent and his wife, Barbara, moved into a new home over 25 years ago, they met James and Debbie, who lived across the street. To Kent, they were a “very wealthy 30-something couple with very few needs—at least they looked that way to us.” Barbara began a friendship with Debbie and took her to a women’s Bible study, which was a new experience for Debbie.James and Debbie accepted an invitation to attend an evangelistic luncheon at a local country club, and James was not open to the gospel.


He later said, “I distrusted the born-again types. And besides, I had been chairman of the board of elders at my church, so wasn’t I religious enough?”But Debbie wanted to know God. Soon after the luncheon she prayed to Him, “I’m going to go out in my yard the next day and when I go outside, I want you to have Barbara come outside so we can talk about my soul.”


Sure enough, when Debbie walked outside, and Barbara also came out. During their conversation, Debbie asked Christ to be her Savior and Lord. So now James and Debbie found themselves mismatched spiritually. James believed as so many others do today—that if you live a basically good life, and your good deeds outweigh your bad ones, you go to heaven. Debbie had come to recognize it was impossible to earn salvation on her own; she needed to receive God’s forgiveness for her sin through Christ and give her life to Him.


As James said later, “I was trying to be understanding and patient, but I often found myself resentful and angry. I felt lonely in my own house. I had my own views about God based on I know not what.


“I figured I had a reasonable shot at heaven because I was a pretty good person. God graded on the curve, no doubt, hopefully a generous one … Debbie refuted my arguments based on Scripture. She spoke of salvation through faith and God’s grace.”


You can imagine how difficult it was for Debbie to see that her husband’s eyes were blind to this truth. But she resolved not to judge James but to pray for him and love him. And James noticed. “For all that I had resented about our new lifestyle, Debbie had changed positively in many ways,” he said. “For openers, she was at peace with our relationship. I was the one in emotional distress. She definitely was a stronger, more independent person, but she was less argumentative and more forgiving. Irony of ironies, she was somehow more romantic through this period of marital tension.”


James’ heart began to change. He met with Kent for a Bible study, and eventually his eyes were opened to the gospel and to his need for Christ. Kent says that if he’s ever discouraged about the impact of the gospel, “all I’ve got to do is pick up my head and look out the window across the street at their house, because there’s a miracle living across the street from me.”


You can hear Kent tell this story and much more in this week’s three-part “FamilyLife Today” series on “When the One You Love Doesn’t Believe.” As Kent explains, Debbie could have badgered and lectured her husband about his need for Christ, but instead she allowed God to work in and through her. God changed her life, and as a result James began to realize she had something that he didn’t.


No matter what your problem in marriage—whether you and your spouse are at different places spiritually, or whether you are experiencing any other type of conflict—a story like this reminds us that God is the One who changes hearts … and He answers prayer.
© Copyright 2007 by FamilyLife. All rights reserved.

Mystery By Author Marlo Schalesky—Interview

Mystery By Author Marlo Schalesky—Interview

HISTORICAL FIRE
PROVIDES BACKDROP FOR MYSTERY
Marlo Schalesky Paints Compelling Word Picture in
VEIL OF FIRE

(NASHVILLE, TENN.) – Hinckley, Minnesota is going up in flames and a mysterious “being” sets up camp at the edge of town in Marlo Schalesky’s May 2007 release, VEIL OF FIRE. Coping with the loss of loved ones and belongings is hard enough, but Hinckley citizens are also encountering a monster. Or is it a ghost? Something didn’t burn up in the fire and Hinckley folks aren’t quite sure if that’s a good thing or bad.

Marlo Schalesky explores the great Minnesota firestorm of 1894 as the backdrop for VEIL OF FIRE. The initial story idea came from a legend passed down in her husband’s family. Schalesky researched the subject, and then novelizsed the story to cover the “what ifs.”

Her lyrical prose is woven deftly into the harsh reality of a fire that consumed 400 square miles and killed 418 people in just four hours. Hinckley of today still isn’t sure what or who the monster was that the fire left behind. Perhaps, though, Schalesky’s story can solve that mystery once and for all.

Marlo Schalesky has authored five books and was named 2001 Writer of the Year at the Mount Hermon Christian Writers’ Conference. Over 500 of her articles have been published in various magazines, and in compilations such as Dr. Dobson’s Night Light Devotional for Couples. She is a regular columnist for Power for Living. The author recently earned her Masters degree in Theology from Fuller Theological Seminary and is currently working on three contemporary novels for Multnomah-Waterbrook Publishers, a division of Random House. She lives in Salinas, California with her husband and four daughters. Marlo is available for interviews, or you can post the following interview on your blog.

A Visit With Marlo

Where did you birth the idea for this book? When? How did it come about?

People often ask where I get my ideas for my books. My answer? You never know! For Veil of Fire, the idea was birthed at my favorite Mexican restaurant in the mission town of San Juan Bautista. There I was, sitting with my family, nibbling chips and salsa, when a wedding party came by. The bridesmaids were dressed in beautiful turn-of-the-century style gowns. As they passed, my mother-in-law began to tell me of the dresses that her great grandmother, who lived in Hinckley, used to sew for the rich ladies in Minneapolis and St. Paul. From there, came the story of the great Hinckley fire and the rebuilding that this woman, my husband’s great-great-grandmother, was a part of. And finally, I heard the tale of the mystery figure in the hills, a person burned beyond recognition. A person never identified, living as a hermit until one day he just disappeared. At that moment, the first inklings of the story that would become Veil of Fire were born in my heart. Who was the hermit in the hills? What happened to him? And how would I solve the mystery if I could? As I pondered those questions, I knew that I had to write the hermit’s story. Had to explore what it would be like to lose everything, even your identity. Had to hear the hermit’s voice in my mind, and hear the story for myself. So, the writing of the book became for me a process of discovery, as I hope it will be for my readers. I hope that as the mystery of the hermit drew me, so too it will draw others to this story of how fire can change you, take from you, and in the end, may just set you free.

Can you explain the research process, since this is such a historical novel?

The research for Veil of Fire was particularly fascinating not only because of its link to my personal family history, but also because of the incredible first-person accounts of the fire that were written by people who were actually there. These stories are compiled into a book written entirely by survivors who recount their personal experience of living through the firestorm that swept through their town. I read about a man whose hat lifted from his head and exploded above him as he ran through wind and fire. I read about another whose horse raced beside the Eastern Minnesota train as fire billowed around him. The horse swerved into the smoke, and the man was never seen again. I read about a boy racing down the tracks, falling, and surviving as the fire roared over him. I read about fire on the surface of the Grindstone River, darkness broken only by bursts of flame, the St. Paul and Duluth engine backing up to Skunk Lake through blinding heat and smoke. I read about a train trestle disintegrating into flame moments after a train passed, about Jane Tew praying on that train, and the brakemen who saved them all. Those eyewitness accounts, as well as information gathered about the fire from other sources, created the realistic feel of the fire and its aftermath in Veil of Fire. Plus, you can be sure that if something seems almost beyond belief in Veil of Fire, it will be drawn from an actual account that came directly from the research, so amazing were the real stories of the fire on that day! Today, a number of books about the fire, as well as artifacts, photos, and other articles can be seen at the Hinckley Fire Museum in Hinckley.

What takeaway points do you hope your readers pull from this book?

Once, when we were children, we believed in miracles. The impossible was only a prayer away. Fairy tales were real, and dreams were free. Where did we lose the ability to trust? When did we stop daring to believe? What happened to us? Life happened. Failure, discouragement, pain, loss. Somewhere, somehow, life burns us all. And we realize that this life we live is not the one we once dreamed. The realities of life scar us. Doubts rise. Fear whispers that hope is gone. And what was once a simple faith can fail in the face of that fear. In the midst of life’s disillusionment, choices appear. Do we retreat? Hide our hurts far from probing eyes? Do we embrace bitterness and cynicism? Do we use deceit to try to obtain our goals? Do we give up, give in, forget that we ever dared to dream? Or is it possible to reach the high places of faith in the low valleys of life’s reality? Can we still live a life of bold faith, of fierce hope, when fairy tales don’t come true? How do we live this life that God has given us when it’s not the life we dreamed? These are the questions I wanted to explore in Veil of Fire. These are the questions which underlie each character’s journey in the aftermath of the great fire of 1894. So, for those burned by life, for those who carry scars that cannot be seen, for those who have retreated for fear of more pain, this story is for you, this journey from the hidden places of pain to a new hope in the unhidden truth of Christ’s love.

Can you share with your readers something God has been teaching you lately?

Through some recent tragedies and through writing Veil of Fire, God is showing me that I cannot measure his love by my successes and failures, or even by my happiness. Who I am on the inside, how I am being shaped into the likeness of Christ, the character of my life – the color and beauty of it – are what are important to God. And to create that color and beauty, sorrow is necessary. Hurtful things happen. So, I’m starting to understand that my life, too, is a story that God is writing. And since the best stories have conflict, disappointments, and plenty of action, I shouldn’t be surprised when my life takes a turn and my faith is challenged once again. And yet, my sorrow matters to God, my tears are counted by him as precious. He does not leave me alone in my hurt. He touches me, he heals me, he creates beauty from the ashes of my pain. So I’m learning to walk through the fires in my own life. And to dig deeper – not to answer the question of why but the question of who – who is God really, who am I, and who is he making me to be? Those are the questions that matter. Those are the things that help me to face my own fires, accept my own scars.

What book are you currently reading?

Why, the New Testament, of course . . . in Greek! Now, before you start thinking that loving Greek makes me too scholarly to write a decent novel, you should know that even though I just completed my Masters at Fuller (that’s a Masters in Theology at Fuller Theological Seminary – so cool!), it wasn’t my desire for an “A” that made me fall in love with New Testament Greek. After all, most students get through Greek class as fast as they can and then forget it. I might have too. But one day, as I was sitting there in class, learning forms and tenses, my professor happened to mention something interesting. “Did you realize,” he said, “that the Greek word for truth and the word for unhidden share the same root.” Ah, in that moment an idea came to me, a little whisper from the heart of God. Truth. Unhidden. Truth. And I began to see the connection between truth and what it means for those who hide in their pain. That idea became the basis for the theme in Veil of Fire. So you see, I can’t help loving the Greek. I can’t help wanting to read the New Testament that way. After all, who knows what I might discover next.

Which character in Veil of Fire do you most relate to, and why?

Even though I base no character on myself, they all reflect a little of me – my questions, my struggles, the issues that have shaped and molded me. In Veil of Fire, this is particularly true for the hermit in the hills. Just as the hermit questions God’s love, believes “I am Esau, unchosen, unloved,” so I too have struggled with those same feelings, doubts, and questions. I, too, have cried out to God, “Why don’t you love me?” For the hermit, it was a question born out of fire, abuse, and disfigurement. For me, it was a question that came out of failure, infertility, and miscarriage. So, in many ways, the hermit’s questions were my own, the answers mine, the external scars reflections of my internal ones, and in turn, I think, symbols of the scars of us all.

When writing Veil of Fire, did you plan the plot before sitting down to write the story, or did the plot develop as the story progressed?
I am a “headlights” writer, which means I can see the chapter I’m writing and a few chapters ahead. I may also glimpse a few “signposts” in the distance. The funny thing about Veil of Fire is that I wrote three quarters of the book thinking the hermit in the hills was one character only to find out as I neared the end that I was wrong! And the impact of that discovery was both a shock and a delight. Suddenly, I understood what God was getting at through the theme and nuances of character in the book. And truly, while I may complain that it would be easier to write a book if it were all mapped out (it certainly would be quicker!), this sense of surprise and delight is one of things that I love about the writing process. I love when the story and characters take on a life of their own. I love to discover what God has been planning for a story all along. And I love to be surprised by a sudden turn of events. And I know if I’m surprised and delighted, my readers will be too.

What book project can we expect from you after Veil of Fire? Can you give us a sneak peak of the storyline?

After Veil of Fire, I’m writing 3 contemporary novels for Waterbrook-Multnomah. All of them are “Love Stories with a Twist!,” a new type of story that I think will knock readers’ socks off. The first, Beyond the Night, releases in May 2008. With groovy 70’s trivia and a whopper of an ending twist, this one was as fun to write as it will be to read. Here’s a blurb about it: They say love is blind. This time, they’re right. A poignant love story. . . A shocking twist . . .Come, experience a love that will not die. Nicolas Sparks (The Notebook) meets M. Night Shymalan (The Sixth Sense) in this moving story of two people trying to find love in the dark. A woman going blind, a man who loves her but can’t tell her so, a car crash, a hospital room, and an ending that has to be experienced to be believed. Watch for it next May!

Love, Lust and Loyalty

Love, Lust and Loyalty

“Lust, Love, & Loyalty” by Dave Boehi

This Article is reprinted from www.FamilyLifeToday.org web site.

How many people cheat on their spouses? What makes them do it? Do they regret their infidelity?

These were some of the questions raised in a recent MSNBC.com/iVillage survey on “Lust, Love & Loyalty.” And though the number of cheating husbands and wives may not be as great as some people would predict, it’s common enough to constitute a serious problem in our culture. But I guess that’s not too surprising, is it?

Among the findings in the survey: 28 percent of married men and 18 percent of married women said they have been unfaithful to their current spouse. (The numbers go up when asked if they’ve ever been unfaithful to a spouse or a “partner.”)

People cheat most often with “a friend or co-worker, and the typical fling lasts less than a week.”

“Many thrive on the excitement they get from a fling (30 percent overall), but men and women are generally prowling for different things. Men want more sex (44 percent), more satisfying sex (38 percent) and variety (40 percent) … Women’s motives range from the need for more emotional attention (40 percent) to being reassured of their desirability (33 percent) or falling in love with someone else (20 percent).”

“About two-thirds of cheaters say they don’t regret their actions, and 12 percent of men and 13 percent of women say they’re glad they cheated. For many ‘it was a life experience, or a daring adventure,’ says [Janet] Lever, the survey’s lead researcher. ‘They had some fabulous sex for a week and they didn’t regret it.’ But many did face lingering feelings of sadness (25 percent), stress (32 percent) and guilt (49 percent).”

As I read through several articles about the “Lust, Love & Loyalty” survey, I was struck by the fact that I was reading a lot more about lust and love than I was about loyalty. And if you are committed to keeping your wedding vows, then loyalty is of prime importance.

So here are three commitments you should make to strengthen your marriage and remain loyal to your spouse.

First, set up some strong boundaries for your relationships with friends and co-workers. For example, avoid having lunch or dinner alone with someone from the opposite sex. If you are meeting at the office with a co-worker of the opposite sex, do so in an open area or in a room with a window into the hallway.

Lois Rabey, author of The Snare, said on a “FamilyLife Today” radio broadcast that she has several friendships with men, but they are careful about how they treat each other and what they talk about:

“We either meet publicly or it’s all of us with our spouses. We don’t hug … We don’t talk about sexual things, we don’t make jokes about sexual things, we don’t comment to each other a lot in flattering ways … I know that they appreciate me and I appreciate them, but it’s a friendship that’s … a safe place because of those boundaries. We don’t go over those lines.”

Second, avoid emotional adultery. In your conversations with members of the opposite sex, beware of being too honest and vulnerable—especially if you are having any struggles in your marriage. As Dennis Rainey, president of FamilyLife, writes, “When two people begin talking of intimate struggles, doubts, or feelings, they may be sharing their souls in a way that God intended exclusively for the marriage relationship. Emotional adultery is friendship with the opposite sex that has progressed too far.”

Finally, work on making your marriage relationship exciting. As the survey indicated, many people cheat because they are seeking excitement—often the romantic excitement they experienced during courtship and early in marriage. It’s easy to allow a marriage relationship to become dry and boring; you’ve got to work continually at keeping your relationship fresh.

When was the last time you went off for a day or a weekend with your spouse? When was the last time you went on a real date? You may be overdue for the type of romantic excitement that will help you stay loyal to your spouse.
© Copyright 2007 by FamilyLife. All rights reserved.

Prayer Needed and Update

Prayer Needed and Update

A family at our church is in urgent need of prayer support. The husband and father, a man in his early forties, was killed in a motorcycle accident today on the way to see his grown son. I don’t have any other details at this time, but know that our pastor went to be with the wife and daughter (a young teen who worships her dad).

I can’t even begin to imagine the pain and loss they’re feeling. Please lift them up with me before our Father’s throne that they’d be carried through the next few days, weeks and months and all the changes they’ll have to face. I’m not sure how they’ll make it financially without his income or how they’ll even afford the burial…all things that you often don’t think about when you’re still young and in the prime of life. It’s hard for ME to imagine him gone, and I’m not close to their family, other than they are part of my church family….but I have such a sense of ‘it’s not real’….and that I’ll see him in church on Sunday.

Thankfully he was a committed Christian and they had a good marriage, so she knows she’ll see him again. But as anyone knows whose lost someone close to you, that doesn’t bring the type of comfort she’ll need to get her through this…only the peace of God can do that.

Thank you for praying…her name is Debbie and his name was Doug.

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Now for a quick update on our situation. We made our bank sign off deadline for the loan to be complete and the house to be finished. The County inspector and bank inspector both signed it off, after a mad rush to get the State electrical inspector up there to do the final sign off, and the Health Dept to do the water test. We’re so grateful that the heavy stress and pressure is off. We still have detail work to be done, that wasn’t required by the county or the bank, but as our present house isn’t sold yet, we aren’t under a deadline to complete it.

We’re still praying for a buyer to come soon, so we can get moved to our new home. We don’t want to leave this one empty, and it shows so much better with furniture and decorations in it. God will bring a buyer soon, and I know He’s in control.